I have been a psychologically safe space for my Mixed-race clients since 2020. As a therapist from a multigenerational Mixed-race family, I identify as Afro-Eurasian and understand the nuance, joys, unique challenges, and complexities of navigating a multiracial identity. My therapeutic work often focuses on helping clients embrace their Mixed-race identity, their multiculturalism, and radical self-acceptance in a world that can objectify, fetishised, or misinterpret them. I hold space for their stories, their struggles, and their triumphs, ensuring they feel seen, valued, and human.

Understanding Mixed-Race Identity Across Generations

Having grown up in a multigenerational Mixed-race family, I identify most comfortably as Afro-Eurasian. This nuanced identity is shaped by a rich tapestry of cultural and racial heritages, and I celebrate all aspects of it. Yet, I’ve observed generational differences in how Mixed-race individuals identify themselves.

For those born before the 1970s, it was common to adopt a monoracial identity. Societal norms at the time, such as the “one-drop rule,” dictated that any person with even a trace of Black ancestry was considered Black, erasing the nuances of their full racial heritage. Phrases like “you are what your father is” further dismissed the mother’s ethnicity and cultural contributions, creating a narrow and reductive view of identity.

Today, younger generations of Mixed-race individuals are often more open to embracing their multiracial heritage. In many places, including the UK, we now see “Mixed-race” or “Multiracial” options on official forms—a long-overdue acknowledgment of our existence. Still, the divide between those who adopt a monoracial identity and those who identify as Mixed can create tensions within communities.

As a therapist, I am mindful of this dynamic. I meet clients where they are, respecting their chosen identities without imposing my own. Racial identity is deeply personal, shaped by factors such as upbringing, societal perceptions, and lived experiences. My role is to affirm their journey, not police it. When asked about my own identity, I simply share that I identify as Mixed and specify Afro-Eurasian on forms.

The Complexities of Verbalising Mixedness

When a Mixed-race person expresses pride in their multiracial heritage, it is often an innocent acknowledgment of the racial and cultural groups that form their identity. However, this can be triggering for some who may interpret it as an act of exclusion or disloyalty to one group. This is especially true for those in the Black community, where the weight of history, colourism, and internalised racism can influence perceptions of Mixed-race identity.

Some Black individuals may view expressions of Mixed pride as a rejection of Blackness or as a perpetuation of western beauty standards that favour lighter skin and European features. These misunderstandings can create friction between Mixed-race individuals and the Black community, but it doesn’t have to be this way.

In therapy, I help clients unpack these tensions and explore their identities in a way that feels authentic and empowering. We work on holding space for dual truths: you can celebrate your multiracial heritage while also being proud of your Black roots. It is not an either/or situation but a both/and reality. This duality is not only valid but also beautiful.

The Hardships of Mixed-Race Identity

Being Mixed-race often means living in the in-between. Many Mixed-race people face unique challenges, including:

•Cultural disconnection: Feeling not fully accepted by one or more of the racial or cultural groups they belong to.

•Microaggressions: Constantly being asked, “What are you?” or having their identity debated or diminished.

•Fetishisation: Being objectified for their perceived exoticism rather than seen as whole individuals.

•Colourism and texturism: Navigating biases both within and outside their communities regarding skin tone or hair texture.

•Internalised confusion: Struggling with where they “fit” and questioning their right to claim certain aspects of their heritage.

It’s important to note that Mixed-race identity isn’t limited to those with Black or White ancestry. I also work with Mixed-race individuals with non-Black and non-White ancestry—those with Native American, East Asian, South Asian, and other racial backgrounds. Their stories are equally valid, yet often overlooked in the broader Mixed-race conversation. These individuals face unique challenges in navigating their cultural identity, as their experiences are often left out of mainstream discussions about race and ethnicity.

In the therapy space, I provide a compassionate, non-judgmental environment for clients to explore these challenges. Together, we:

•Build self-acceptance: Cultivating a sense of pride in their unique identity.

•Unpack societal biases: Identifying and challenging internalised racism, colourism, and texturism.

•Strengthen boundaries: Developing tools to navigate microaggressions and intrusive questions.

•Explore cultural connection: Helping clients reconnect with aspects of their heritage that feel meaningful to them.

Through this work, clients begin to feel less fragmented and more whole. They learn that their identity is valid, complex, and worthy of celebration.

Why Work With Me?

If you are Mixed-race and seeking a safe space to explore your identity, I am here for you. As a therapist who understands the nuances of being Mixed—because I live it every day—I can offer insights and guidance that go beyond textbooks and theories. I have walked this path myself, and I am committed to helping you walk yours with confidence and clarity.

Through our sessions, you will learn to embrace your multiracial identity, set boundaries that protect your peace, and navigate a world that often tries to define you on its terms. You are not alone in this journey, and your identity is not something to apologise for—it is something to celebrate.

Curious? Intrigued? Ready to dive deeper into your sense of self? Let’s talk. Together, we can create a space where your identity is not policed but honoured, and where your Mixedness is not just acknowledged but celebrated.

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